Don’t: Forget to follow through. Clean up the kitchen and be extra nice to her all day. It’s not Mother’s Morning, it’s Mother’s Day.
Do: Remember your own mother. She also gets the basic trio if possible, and a visit to her grandchildren if applicable. If you don’t have kids of your own, make sure you at least call her. Forgetting is inexcusable and makes you a bad son or daughter
Don’t: Assume that the mother of your kids is going to remember to make sure you remember to call your mother. She probably will remind you anyway, but your esteem will rise if you do it on your own. She also has a mother of her own and will be likely doing good daughter things. It’s expected you pull your own weight.
Do: Listen to what she wants. If she says she’d like the day to herself, give her the day to herself. If she’d like a nice brunch at a local restaurant, do that. A picnic with the family? Start making sandwiches and potato salad. If she asks for something more specific than the basic trio, it’s your job to make sure she gets is.
Don’t: Tell her you aren’t a mind-reader. If she says she doesn’t want anything special, the basic trio it is. But if there is something she really wants, figure out what it is. You aren’t stupid. Think ahead, and plan accordingly.
Do: Buy her a frivolous gift. Yes, you have the flowers, chocolates and card, but an extra something, will be appreciated. It can be expensive jewelry, but it can also be tickets to a show, a spa day gift certificate or whatever suits her taste.
Don’t: Buy her a practical gift. She will not appreciate a new mop, frying pan, apron or power tool. And while clothing may seem like a good option, it can be risky in the extreme. If you must, make sure you keep the receipt.
Do: Spend some money, but don’t go crazy probably has a vested interest in telling you how much to spend), but you can be generous without breaking the bank.
Don’t: Give her cash.