A lot happens in long-term relationships: new jobs and the loss of some, new homes and moving in together, the loss of old friends and the start of new friendships. As you navigate years and many milestones together, its normal to lose that same luster and fire for one another that you had when you first met. Life, and love, will always change as you age and continue on, but if you’re starting to doubt that your girlfriend cares about you the same way she used to, then it might be time to check in on your relationship. Especially if you’re lying next to her or sitting across the dinner table from her, wondering ”Does she still love me?”
To help solve this, read it here from the love experts who can help you see the signs that she totally loves you. Maybe even more than she ever has before:
1) Why Are You Feeling This Way?
Before addressing anything with your live-in girlfriend, you must take some time to do soul searching. Oftentimes, when we’re obsessing over tiny details and over-analyzing someone else’s feelings, it’s an indicator of what’s going on inside our own lives. Have you recently been laid off and you’re feeling like less of a provider? Or have you been so preoccupied with your career or caring for a family member that your relationship feels like it’s taking a backseat to everything else in your life? Look for any big change that’s taken place in the past six months that could be impacting your love life, and check-in with yourself first. Experts agree that coming from a healthy place of self-care and self-love will build your confidence when you’re sharing your life and heart with someone else.
There are points in a relationship when one person or the other gets scared. This often happens because their heart is opening, and that feeling can bring up and release old pushed down emotions and pain from the past. And that’s scary .
2) What Is She Like On A Bad Day?
Part of the beauty of a relationship is that it’s often a safe harbor when you’ve had a crap day at the office or got into a fight with a pal. Or maybe, you’re just not feeling as attractive as you did a few months or a year ago. Our partners are there for us to rely on and place our trust in. And if your lady is still dying to come home to you after a tough day, you don’t have reason to worry. When she’s really hurting, feels ashamed, or is scared, she lets you in. It’s hard to pull the facade of perfection down and actually let someone see you she explains. When she shows you her truth, her insecurity, her shame, what she is saying is that she trusts you so much, that she trusts you with her!
3) How Is She Acting?
”There are a lot of reasons that a man might worry about his partner not loving him anymore. If he starts noticing a lack of intimacy, he might start to wonder if she is no longer attracted to him. If she starts canceling plans and just wants to stay home, he might fear she doesn’t care to spend alone time with him. If her style of communication has changed or declined, he might think she no longer cares what he’s up to.
Before you approach the conversation with her, take note of what’s changed from her perspective that could explain her actions. You need to come from a loving place of care and concern, and having concrete examples will help you state your case without relying too much on emotional stress.
4) Could It Be Something Else?
Now, put the first and second pieces together: You recently got a new job that’s keeping you from being home as often, so she’s been making more plans with her friends because you aren’t around. That’s why when you randomly ask her to grab a drink at your favorite lounge on a Tuesday, she can’t make it. While every relationship will have different examples, using logic instead of the fear bubbling up inside of you will help ease your mind and troubles: There may be a few different causes for these behavior changes. If she has recently changed her career or picked up a hobby, her new busy lifestyle could be to blame. Or if things have begun to ramp up at work, she could be too stressed out to focus on the relationship. These are signs that she might just be distracted
5) What About The Small Stuff?
House says that instead of looking out for those big gestures of affection or reassurance, look for the things that might not seem like they mean much, but mean more than the rest. ”When she’s at the grocery store, she buys your favorite watermelon gum at checkout and brings it to you. It might seem trite, but the fact that she is thinking about you and wants to show you by taking action and buy then bringing you that gum, is an act of love,” House says.
When she leaves for work in the morning, does she leave you a note telling you to have a ‘great day’?” If she is always letting you know she is thinking about you, it’s a good sign.”