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Top 5 Reasons Why The Friendzone Is Actually A Great Place To Be

Many people usually consider friendzoning one of the worst things ever especially when you are friend zoned with someone you secretly admirer. Friendzone is usually a place that romantic intentions go to die.  It’s an elephant graveyard where men who aren’t quite good enough to make the cut as boyfriends are politely relegated to rot in the terrain of friendship, while the object of your affection is off cavorting with other, better candidates, but mind you its a blessing in disguise and below are the reasons why below….

Many people usually consider friendzoning one of the worst things ever especially when you are friend zoned with someone you secretly admirer

1. The Friendzone Hones Your Communication Skills

Often, the ”friendzoning” process goes like when man decides he has a massive crush on someone he knows through work or his friendship group, or otherwise met in neutral, platonic circumstances  they took the same class back in  high school or university. They strike up a relationship in which she takes him to be a cool person with whom she enjoys spending time, and he develops a furious crush on her, which he never explicitly tells her about. He lets his feelings simmer and swell, but never uses actual words to suggest that he is keen to move things into a romantic sphere.

2. The Friendzone Helps You Lose Your Sense Of Entitlement

Another important lesson to learn from the process of being friendzoned is that women don’t owe you their romantic affection, nor do they owe you sex. There is no rule of the universe which states that, as long as you have found a single woman who is friendly towards you and in whom you are interested, she must return your affections and eventually progress things to a romantic level.

 

3. The Friendzone Helps You Build Stronger Relationships With Women

Learning to see women as fully fledged human being with their own desires, values and goals as opposed to romantic prospects walking around waiting to be “won” by a man is a plus for everyone. For women, it’s great because it means their full humanity is being acknowledged, and for you it’s great because you can start to view women as multitude-containing beings rather than two-dimensional girlfriends to be acquired, and that’s ultimately much more fulfilling.

 

4. The Friendzone Ensures You Don’t End Up In Relationships For The Wrong Reasons

Say things went the way you ostensibly wanted them to: You pined for a certain woman, explained that you saw her as more than “just” a friend and that she’d led you to believe she felt the same way, and even though she has expressed no genuine romantic interest in you, she agrees to be with you because that’s how you want things to be.

 

5. The Friendzone Helps You Deal With Rejection

Okay. For instance you’ve read and deeply internalized all of the above points. You can see that friendship isn’t a consolation prize and being friendzoned can be valuable in a multitude of ways: It can clarify the need for clear communication, for example, and deepen your impression of women. However, you may still be feeling a niggling sense that being friendzoned still isn’t exactly what you wanted. You met a woman who you wanted to become your girlfriend and she’s made it clear that she won’t, and you’re finding it difficult to conceptualize that as anything but rejection.

Well, in the kindest possible way, so what? Even if you have been rejected, that’s okay and even valuable, too. Rejection is an inevitable facet of life, and we will all face it many times throughout our lives, from the workplace to the romantic realm. None of us particularly love it, but almost all of us could be better at facing and dealing with it. If nothing else, being friendzoned — if you cannot view it positively for any other reason — is at least useful practice for experiencing and then dealing with romantic rejection.

 

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