Are You Guys Really For Real? If So You’ll Recognize These Signs Instantly

If, at this point, you still believe in love and haven’t been dissuaded from the idea of spending the rest of your life with someone through your angry divorced grandparents, give yourself a round of applause!

What are the signs that one should look for while searching for a prospective life partner, someone you could be faith? Pro-tip: They’re actually right in front of you.

1. Your Shared Interests Include More Than Hobbies

Hey, if your girlfriend likes the same TV shows, books, and movies as you, that’s awesome. However  as guys we have to accept that not every woman is going to be as diehard of a Star Wars fan as you’re going to be. Shared life interests go far beyond mutual hobbies. Living your life in a similar fashion to someone else with similar core beliefs is huge. For instance, if she cares as much as about her family as you do, you’ll never have to be involved in a stupid fight about who goes where for the holidays. (For the record, Star Wars is still an amazing movie.)

2. You Resolve Your Fights

Every couple will fight and anyone who lives differently is living in a fantasy-land that more or may not be made entirely of bubblegum and candy. You can tell you’re made for each other when fights don’t rip you both at the seams. When those little scuffles and arguments build up and get under your skin, they weigh on each partner and can eventually drive people apart. However, fixing fights and actually talking through them is a luxury a lot of people don’t consider when all keyed up and angry. When you fight, you two take a few minutes to yourself, cool off, and talk about a solution. The make up sex is a bonus.

3. You Can Travel Together

Traveling with your life partner is one of the most fun ways to travel  because, let’s be real, not everyone has the capacity to aimlessly wander about Europe with a backpack and bottle of whiskey. When you travel together  and you should travel together  do your different personalities clash, or complement each other? If you’re able to go on vacations and day-trips without going insane from fighting, you’re doing something right.

4. You Can Live Together

Living together under the same roof actually may be one of the biggest struggles in a relationship. If the act of moving in together doesn’t drive you crazy, figuring out how to get over the bliss that is living by yourself and eating fried chicken in bed until 3 a.m. will really show you what you’re capable of as a human being. It’s no easy task by any means, but if you talk about the decision beforehand, manage your expectations, and come to terms with the reality that you’ll hear each other pooping, moving with your girlfriend becomes way less daunting.

5. You Can Maintain The Friend/Girlfriend Balance

Ah yes, the friend/girlfriend balance easily one of the hardest things a man will have to manage in his life. It’s Friday night and you’re hanging out with your girlfriend, when suddenly you get a text from your buds commanding you to come out to a nearby bar. Do you go alone, bring your girlfriend, say you can’t, ignore the text? If I had the answer to this ageless question, I wouldn’t be writing content for websites… I’d be an omnipotent being giving advice for a shit-ton of money. Maintaining the balance is up to you; we all know how amazing it is to snuggle up with your girlfriend 24/7, but neither one of you wants to be the only person in each other’s lives. If you can spend time with your friends by yourself, with her by your side, and vice-versa for her friends all equally, you’re on the right track.

6. You Have Awesome Sex

Whether it’s wild sex, make up sex, Christmas sex, Hanukkah sex, morning sex, afternoon sex, drunk sex, or gloriously lazy sex,you know you’re with the person you’re meant to be with when the sex is always good… even when it’s bad.

7. You Can Do Nothing Together (And Love It)

On the other hand, there are still those nights where neither one of you wants to have sex at all (imagine that!) and you opt out for Netflix and Chill (literally) with a glass of booze in your hands. If you don’t feel the need to fill those lovely nights with forced conversation or unnecessary hand stuff, you can consider your relationship a success. There is no such thing as time wasted when you’re spending that time with someone you love  consider turning off your phones and enjoying domestic bliss.

8. Things Are Still Romantic

If you have to struggle to keep things romantic, don’t let that dissuade you from thinking the girl you’re with is the girl you should end up with. I get it, the weeks are long, work is hard, and Fridays are the most tiring days ever. It’s easy to fall into the trap of comfortable laziness, but that doesn’t mean all hope is lost. If you have to plan out a romantic evening that doesn’t naturally occur, don’t fret, because romance doesn’t die with the person who’s made for you. It may be harder and harder to make time for those little moments, but when they pop up, you’ll remember why you chose each other.It doesn’t have to be a grandiose gesture of roses and dinner and a mariachi band in fact, it can be as something as small as telling her she looks pretty. If you’ve got that, you’ve got everything.

9. You See A Future With Her

It’s actually quite startling how many couples refrain from talking about the future out of fear. Call me crazy, but I think it’s because so few couples out there actually see themselves with the person they’re with for a long period of time. The relationship-out-of-necessity, or ”settling” is a huge problem that will trap innocent loving people in a commitment they don’t want. They spend thousands of dollars on a wedding and a honeymoon to find out, a few years later, that they were never really that into it. If you close your eyes and think about your life and she’s in every daydream you have, then you’re on the right track. If she feels the same way and you’ve talked about this with each other, you’re on the double-right track. If neither one of you can see a long-term future with each other, it’s time to move on.

10. You’re Completely Yourself Around Her

Don’t hide your personality or pretend to be something you’re not that’s what first dates are for. When you’re with the one, you start to think of them as an extension of yourself. You can fully be your own person around them and they can do the same with you. If you find yourself censoring your words or thoughts and simply don’t feel comfortable around them, then take that all into consideration. If you’re in it for the long haul and feel like you have to lock yourself in your bedroom every hour, you might be doing something wrong. Finding the one you love is about finding someone who will love and accept you for who you are. You’ll grow together, change together, and just be together without any reservations.