Here are Five Signs That Prove You’re Secretly A Sapiosexual

1. You Find People More Attractive As You Get To Know Them

Ever met someone and, though their beauty didn’t take your breath away, something about how they conducted themselves, how they spoke and their confidence was undeniably appealing to you? Then as you go to know them, suddenly, they became way more beautiful? This is a clear sign of being a sapiosexual .

[Sapiosexuals] are the type of person who does not find someone instantly attractive. They find that the person grows to be attractive the more they talk to and get to know them. This is because it is their mind, and not their physical attributes, that attract them. So, getting to know that this person is of strong and varied intellect will make them more and more attractive .

2. You’re More Turned On By What They Know Than What They Have

For you, the finer things in life aren’t luxury items that come with hefty price tag or that others would envy. You’re not the type to judge someone by their place in society, their fashion sense or how much money they have, but more by what they know and what invigorates them to personal greatness. Status, finances, and looks are way down on the list of must-haves . The sapiosexual is not looking for a smart narcissist; they are looking for a person who has a zest for knowledge, learning, and discussion .

3. You’re Turned On By Knowledge – In Any Form

You don’t need someone who has the perfect IQ, who’s the top of the top in their field or has a vocabulary that you need a dictionary to decipher. Instead, what gets you going and piques your interest is far more about just a general, profound love of knowledge, in whatever form it takes in your partner.

 4. You’re Much More Likely To Find The Diamond In The Rough

So much of what first brings couples together is based on that instant lock of the eyes and scan of their body. However, for a sapiosexual, a powerful, intense attraction might happen far later in the dating process, which gives you the opportunity to meet someone truly remarkable instead of someone who’s merely beautiful at face value.

It is the times when people on initial look may not see that two people go together, but then talk to them and realize how perfectly suited they are for each other. It’s because they are consistently interested in what the other has to say, and they genuinely find this person mentally and emotionally stimulating .

5. You’d Rather Have A Really Great Conversation Than Casual Sex

This doesn’t mean you don’t want to have intercourse or you wouldn’t have a one-night stand if the opportunity presented itself, it just means that what turns you on and fulfills you is much more mental than physical. But a sapiosexual might find themselves more aroused by deep conversation than deep penetration.

This is someone who is happy in a relationship that is more of true minds than physical. They would often prefer a good conversation over a good make-out session. If they’ve met their equal, this can be a great fit . If their partner values the physical connection more, the person must be sure to be more balanced between intellectual and physical stimulation, to ensure both partners’ needs are met.