Top 10 Signs He’s Not Marriage Material

It was his flirtatious charm that drew you to him in the first place only to realise he’s still using it on other women and even dares to claim that it’s ‘harmless’! And then one fine day you feel your relationship is either all about sex or not even remotely related to physical intimacy. Should you, shouldn’t you? Will he, won’t he? Worth it, or not?

Here are 10 signs of telling a man if he is marriage material or not.

1. You’re an object

If he constantly criticizes the way you look, or on the other extreme, can’t stop praising your beauty (as opposed to your other not-so-superficial attributes), you’re just eye candy for him. And your main aim in life should be to look like a stunner even after a rough day at work or after you’ve just woken up. He needs to wake up and smell the coffee. And so do you!

2. Incorrigible flirt

Okay, so his flirtatious charm is what drew you to him in the first place. But if hes still using it on other women and even dares to claim that it’s ”harmless”, it’s either he who needs to drop the habit or you who need to drop him  like a hot potato.

3. Attraction wise

The first thing that usually brings two people together romantically is physical attraction. Are or were you ever really attracted to him? Or did you get into the relationship on the rebound or due to loneliness, pity, plain boredom or just for some quick, easy sex. In case of the latter, you need to understand that if you were never attracted to him, you probably never will be. And might end up cheating on him or indulging in some ‘harmless flirting’ with the.

 4. Money issues

He doesn’t hold on to a steady job. He’s changed jobs or professions several times over but hasn’t yet found his ‘grove’. He’s a spendthrift, and blows up his savings on branded stuff, gambles or drinks it away. Hes got no investments. He’s unemployed and makes no attempts to land a job. If one or more of the above hold true, you need to either have or earn pots of gold to formalise the relationship in front of society. If you still have the inclination to, that is.

5. Anti-planning

The minute you start talking about considering setting a wedding date even in the faraway future he gets wishy-washy and morphs into the very commitment-phobe you met eons ago. He didn’t see a ‘concrete future’ at the time because he was focused on his evening executive course or first job; he doesn’t now because he’s just gotten a promotion or launched his own start-up and therefore has increased responsibilities.

6. Baby talk makes him hyperventilate

If the mere mention of marriage makes him launch into undecipherable mumbo-jumbo, he’s sure to start hyper-ventilating the minute you even start cootchie-cooing over an infant in the vicinity, let alone talk about producing one together. Run like hell from this guy before he runs away from you.

7. Mommy’s boy

He’s well in his 20s but his mum still does everything from ironing his shirts, to making his bed, preparing special food for him… you get the drift. And worse still, he doesn’t seem even slightly embarrassed by it. It’s time for you to get him to grow up (since he or his mum have no such intentions), and or give him a reality check about shared duties and responsibilities post marriage.

8. He’s plain mean

 There’s got to be some truth in that old saying that he’ll treat you the way he treats his mother. So if he’s mean to his mum in particular and his folks in general, you probably don’t have a winner on hand. And yes, if he flunks the rude to waiter test as well, please do yourself a favor and get rid of him.

9. You’re off family

You’ve been seeing each other for a while now and have enthusiastically introduced him to your close ones. However, if you’ve never met his family or even his friends, he obviously doesn’t see you as a part of his future. Ask him gently yet firmly if he ever plans to change that. And if he has the gall to term you a nag, you know where the relationship will go. Nowhere.

10. Mean family

However, if you’ve met his family and they seem right out of the sets of a saas-bahu soap, you need to ask yourself if you really love him enough to deal with all that in-law drama. More importantly, discuss whether you will go the good ol” joint family way or the good new nuclear one.