Things You Shouldn’t Do After A Breakup

Post breakup, you don’t want to look like the miserable ex. In the name of pride and moving on with class, here is what you shouldn’t do after a breakup.

Don’t think you’ll always feel this badly
Breakups suck for a while. There’s no getting around it. But, then, a while later (and sooner than you think) you’ll feel better. Seriously, it gets easier. Trust in time, it is your friend on this front. Somewhere inside, you know that. Just hang on until you feel great and move on.

Do not beg your now ex to get back with you
Desperation is what will be read all over your face if you dare pull this move. Some break-ups happen because you did wrong or because someone doesn’t feel you anymore. So if you go back and act all desperate like life will not continue without your now ex you are bound to heap on some more heartbreak on top of the existing ache. It’s like you are willingly asking for a more intense kind of heartbreak.
Immediately after the breakup, do not start dating anyone else.
One of the most common tendencies men and women have is to try to jump into a relationship with someone new after another relationship has ended. Though going on a simple date with someone a week or two after the breakup may seem harmless to you, your previous partner could find out about it and feel extremely hurt as a result. Even in the case that your old partner would never find out, spending time with someone new so soon after your relationship ended isn’t good for you, either. In fact, distracting yourself in this way will prevent you from going through some of the natural mourning steps that must take place in order for you to truly heal from the loss and—wait for it—learn from it!
Don’t trash-talk your ex
In every breakup the best thing one can do is to be the classy one and walk away with your head held up high. At some point, talking about what happened in the breakup is pointless. Yes, it hurts and you miss the good times shared but the more you focus on the heartbreak, the more resentful you become.
It’s also not the time to trash-talk about your ex, lest you sound like the disgruntled ex-girlfriend. This will be even more apparent if you have common friends – the last thing you want is for someone to tell your ex what you said about him.

Do not practice stalking
Stalking! You will be tempted to do this very easily, especially to find out what your ex is up to and whether they have moved on and who with. Knowing this will pain you even more and take you to a dark place with too many questions and “what ifs”. Social media and especially Facebook has made stalking ever so easy but I think it is better to not know what your ex is getting up to as… what you don’t know won’t hurt you.Do not try to make your ex’s friends your friends so that you can find out how your ex is doing through them.
 Do not get violent/ physical
When you find yourself torturing your ex’s car, egging his/her house, getting your friends to take him down whenever the opportunity arises…then you are probably hurting on another level. When you constantly visit their house unannounced to trash their house, shove them or provoke them so that you can get them to fight you, call them names and embarrass them in front of the neighbors…then you are going about it all wrong and in the end you are the one who will end up looking like a complete sore loser!
 Do not become hateful
Finding excuses to try and see your ex is already lame! Move on with your life already. But you will stoop to a new low when you start picking fights with your ex and perhaps even the new person in their life. You are constantly in their face and in their life, calling them, abusing them and just focusing on making their life unbearable! You become so hateful such that you start spreading malicious lies about them not knowing that this will not help your situation. You are just wasting your time and your energy being hateful.
Do not Lose Faith
While it’s ok to give yourself a brief pity party after a breakup, it’s important not to lose faith. No matter how you’re feeling, you need to continue living your life and finding joy in your existence. Exercise mind over matter, and act as if. What do I mean by act as if? I mean, act as if you’re happy. Everyday find a reason, any reason to smile. Tell yourself on a daily basis that everything will be ok. And if you continually tell yourself something, you will start to believe it. The mind is very powerful, and you can make your thoughts reality.
Not another sad love song
Another thing to note: No sad music and no sad movies, please. The last thing you want is to make yourself feel worse than you already are.

If your aim is to forget someone and move on with your life then keeping in touch with them won’t make moving on easier. You will always find yourself going back to that place where you were with them as a couple. You are likely to start missing them, you can’t help it but if they are still not feeling you then you are wasting your emotions on the wrong person and you may even be bothering them by contacting them.
However if you broke up in not so bad terms and respected each other during the relationship then a birthday wish here and a Christmas greeting there won’t hurt. Just don’t assume that things should be the same as when you were together and when they don’t respond to your texts or emails, don’t beat yourself about it.In short, just be grown up about it and move on with your life. #YOLO!