Tricks To Help You Finally Move On From Your Ex

Getting over your ex is one of the great dilemmas of manhood. It’s rarely a quick and easy process, and it’s often complicated by all the things that the two of you still have in common, like friends, favorite hangouts and even living quarters. Maybe the most frustrating thing about the whole process is that even if ending the relationship was the right thing to do even if she cheated on you  it can still be hard to bury all those memories and move on with your life.

Check out these tricks that will finally help you’ll be back to your old self in no time

1. Hook Up With Someone Else

One thing that a lot of guys do to get over exes is get someone else into the picture. It can be a tricky proposition, but if you’re both aware that it’s a no strings attached encounter, it might work as a good palate cleanser (if you will) to remind you that there are other people in the world besides your ex. One of the reasons guys equivocate about leaving an ex behind is because no matter how confident they are they worry they won’t find someone new. That’s what sends them crawling back to those familiar, comfortable, dysfunctional old relationships time and time again. Finding a new love interest can remind you that you’re not destined to be forever lonely.

2. Exercise Your Newfound Freedoms

Relationships are about compromise. Being single should be about doing whatever the hell you want. Look, you’re free to do whatever you want within the bounds of the law, of course. So stay out until four in the morning, hop on a bus to your relative’s place or just sit on your ass and watch basketball all day. Taking pleasure in all of those things that you refrained from doing as a boyfriend can be a great way to get over your ex.

3. Remember The Bad Times

It’s pretty common for guys to idealize their significant others after a breakup. You’ll just be going about your business, and then, suddenly, you’ll remember an inside joke or a great date. Then you’ll grin, thinking about a cute personality quirk she had, and before long, you’re fantasizing about how great your love life used to be.

Snap out of it. One of the most important of our tips for getting over your ex is to remember the bad times. Focus on the fights and the problems. Recollect her bad habits and the little things about the relationship that frustrated you. It’s like taking a cold shower  you can stop yourself from mythologizing the relationship if you keep it in perspective

4. Hang With Your Friends

One of the things many guys have to sacrifice when in a committed relationship was spending a lot of time with friends. Relationships are notorious time-bandits, as being with the person you’re closest to tends to take priority over catching up with your buddies. But now that you’re single, you can reconnect with everyone you left behind. Not only will it be fun, but it will also be therapeutic, because hanging out with your friends is one of the most rewarding of our tips for getting over your ex.

5. Don’t Try Getting Your Stuff Back

By the same token, you don’t want to try to get your stuff back. You can’t have a relationship relapse if you don’t allow yourself to see your ex. Forget about all that stuff you left at her place. Consider it gone. The $50 you’re going to have to spend to replace a few DVDs is a small price to pay to avoid an ex-girlfriend who could be either desperately needy or irrationally angry.

6. Work Out

Without a girlfriend gobbling up hours out of every day, you may be wondering what to do with yourself. Now that you’re single, we suggest hitting the gym or taking a jog. It’s a healthy way to work out all of that post-breakup frustration. Getting in shape is also a good way to boost your self-esteem. And don’t forget: The gym is a great place to meet women.

7. Don’t Contact Her

After you’ve gotten closer, don’t contact her. Go cold turkey. Seriously. Maybe you said some crap about trying to stay friends, maybe you made some idiot vow to ”always be there for each other,” but forget it. By staying in touch with old flames,you’re asking for months (if not years) of on-again-off-again uncertainty. So, throw out her phone number, stop texting her and unfriend her on Facebook. Imagine how freaked out you’ll be the first time you see some strange dude in her profile picture, and you’ll see why a clean break is essential.

8. Get Closure

Step eight for getting over your ex: get closure. If you’re going to break up with her, don’t put it off. Make sure you’re both on the same page. This is a breakup, not a ”break.” The two of you are moving on, which means potentially seeing other people. If you feel the need to do a relationship postmortem, do it now. You won’t be seeing her again for a while